Memo From Your Child

   This is a great reminder to all us parents, caregivers & mentors.

Memo From Your Child

1.  Don't spoil me. 
       I know quite well that I ought not to have all that I ask for.  I'm testing you.

2.  Don't be afraid to be firm with me.
       I prefer it; it makes me feel more secure.

3.  Don't let me form bad habits. 
       I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.

4.  Don't make me feel smaller than I really am. 
       It only makes me behave stupidly "big".

5.  Don't correct me in front of people if you can help it. 
       I'll take much more notice if you talk to me privately.

6.  Don't make me feel my mistakes are sins. 
       It upsets my sense of values.

7.  Don't protect me from consequences. 
       I sometimes have to learn the painful way.

8.  Don't be too upset when I say, "I hate you." 
       It isn't you I hate, but your power to thwart me.

9.  Don't take too much notice of my small ailments. 
       Sometimes they get me the attention I need.

10.  Don't nag. 
          If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf.

11.  Don't forget that I can not explain myself as well as I should like; 
         This is why I'm not always accurate.

12.  Don't make rash promises. 
         Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.

13.  Don't tax my honesty too much. 
         I am easily frightened into telling lies.

14.  Don't be inconsistent. 
         That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.

15.  Don't tell me my fears are silly. 
         They are terribly real to me and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.

16.  Don't put me off when I ask questions. 
         If you do, you will find that I stop asking and get my information elsewhere.

17.  Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. 
         It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither.

18.  Don't ever think it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me. 
         An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm toward you.

19.  Don't forget how quickly I am growing up. 
         It must be difficult to keep pace with me, but please, do try.

20.  Don't forget that I love experimenting. 
          I couldn't get along without it so please put up with it.

21.  Don't forget that I can't thrive without lots of understanding love,
         but I don't need to tell you that do I?


By Thomas C. Ritt, Jr., Arizona ACLD Newsletter December, 1975

Children Learn What They Live

If a child lives with criticism,  He learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility,  He learns to fight.

If a child lives with redicule,  He learns to be shy.

If a child lives with shame,  He learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance,  He learns to be patient.

If a child lives with encouragement,  He learns confidence.

If a child lives with praise,  He learns to appreciate.

If a child lives with fairness,  He learns justice.

If a child lives with security,  He learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval,  He learns to like himself.

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,

He learns to find love in the world.

                                                                   By Dorothy Law Nolite

 

Ten Commitments For Parents

1.  I will always love & respect my child for who he is & not who I want him to be.

2.  I will give my child space - to grow, to dream, to succeed & even sometimes fail.

3.  I will create a loving home environment & show my child that she is loved,

whenever & however I can.

4.  I will, when discipline is necessary, let my child know that I disapprove of what he does,

not who he is.

5.  I will set limits for my child & help her find security in the knowledge of what is expected of her.

6.  I will make time for my child & cherish our moments together, realizing how important, 

 & fleeting, they are.

7.  I will not burden my child with emotions & problems he is not equipped to deal with, remembering that I am the parent & he is the child.

8.  I will encourage my child to experience the world & all it's possibilities, guiding her in its ways & taking pains to leave her careful but not fearful.

9.  I will take care of myself physically & emotionally, so that I can be there for my child

when he needs me.

10.  I will try to be the kind of person I want my child to grow up to be -

loving, fair-minded, moral, giving, & hopeful.

author unknown

Mom's & Dad's Do List

  

Mom's & Dad's Do List

Hug Em & Scrub Em

& Feed Em Good Stuff.

Hear Em & Cheer Em

& Don't Be Too Rough.

Squeeze Em & Tease Em

& Share Work & Play.

Whisper I Love You In

Each Ear Each Day.

*Author Unknown

 

  This is a poem that I got from my son's preschool a few years back.  I just came across it & thought I would share.  It's a short, simple poem that makes a lot of sense.  We, as parents, should remember to do these things to make sure our children ALWAYS feel loved!